Coaching Approaches & Methods
I specialize in Compulsive Sexual Behavior Recovery for men. Whether it is porn, strip clubs, infidelity, etc, I work with you to break up with escapism behavior and find lasting freedom through story work and listening to your lust. You will distinguish the good purpose lust has in your life and separate that purpose from any perverted behavior. I guide you on your journey to align your sexuality with your faith, values, and commitments. As you break up with unwanted sexual behaviors, we will work together to discover new realms of joy, vitality, and wonder in your life.
I also do life coaching, performance coaching, emotional intelligence, and trauma integration.
1st session is free. 30-day money back guarantee.
About
No leader can take you further than they have gone themselves.
I have excavated a deep wound from my distant relationship with my dad. A subtle coping mechanism to win love from my mom. Chronic anxiety and humiliation as a child. An embarrassing fetish that confirmed my need to hide parts of myself. A confusing misalignment of my faith and my sexuality. Getting betrayed by my family. Betraying a girl I was very serious about. Shame had me in a choke-hold.
Everyday, I challenge myself to step into the light. To forfeit my ego. To listen for a higher authority. To sniff out shame (which is ALWAYS there, but hard to find). To cultivate goodness, beauty, and love.
As a coach, I am your sounding board. I believe the answers are already within you, and through our conversation, you will uncover your needs, be coached to honor and express emotions, find and dismiss shame, and break up with habits that do not serve you.
I have been helping others through addiction, trauma, and performance coaching for six years. We all have traumas from the past, whether they are big or small, and unless they are integrated, our personal history has a way of repeating itself, sabotaging our relationships, career, family, and impact. I am an Unwanted Guide, utilizing story work, empathic listening, emotional intelligence, and curiosity to foster healing and transformation.
The clients I work with often tell me that my coaching has transformed the way they view and live life. They replace porn habits, excessive TV time, and social media scrolling with proper self-care, enriching relationships, and clarity in the kind of man they are committed to being.
I prioritize family. My wife is a delight, and our relationship challenges me to grow as a man. I am learning what it means to love, to embrace, to cherish, and to surrender. My little girl is cute and mischievous. Together, our days are full of smiles, laughter, dancing, and singing. And our family is growing, with a boy on the way.
testimonials
Adam L
Throughout the calls we had, the biggest thing that I received was a sense of hope. Before, I had almost given up on the idea of marriage because of my situation. However, hearing from your personal experiences and hearing how you overcame the problems you faced was a huge help for me to receive reassurance that marriage isn't such an unattainable thing. Also, the amount of guidance and wisdom I have received from you were extremely helpful. One of the biggest things I received, among others, was the concept that negative emotions are present in people because these emotions drive us to do something productive. However, it can also cause us to hide away from the problem. So being aware of this fact made it much easier for me to bounce back whenever I feel down or anxious. Another was the 4Cs which made me easily identify the reason why I was down through analyzing which aspects of my current life seems to be missing. In addition, I also extremely appreciated how flexible everything was. Especially being in drastically different time zones, it must be hard to schedule calls. But I was very glad that scheduling a call with you didn't have to be that difficult. Also, during the calls I felt very loved and understood. Ever since I was young, I never really had someone to share about my problems with. However, it felt very touching to be looked upon with love and care despite all the negative experiences I had and understand my situation.
Adam
Throughout the calls we had, the biggest thing that I received was a sense of hope. Before, I had almost given up on the idea of marriage because of my situation. However, hearing from your personal experiences and hearing how you overcame the problems you faced was a huge help for me to receive reassurance that marriage isn't such an unattainable thing. Also, the amount of guidance and wisdom I have received from you were extremely helpful. One of the biggest things I received, among others, was the concept that negative emotions are present in people because these emotions drive us to do something productive. However, it can also cause us to hide away from the problem. So being aware of this fact made it much easier for me to bounce back whenever I feel down or anxious. Another was the 4Cs which made me easily identify the reason why I was down through analyzing which aspects of my current life seems to be missing. In addition, I also extremely appreciated how flexible everything was. Especially being in drastically different time zones, it must be hard to schedule calls. But I was very glad that scheduling a call with you didn't have to be that difficult. Also, during the calls I felt very loved and understood. Ever since I was young, I never really had someone to share about my problems with. However, it felt very touching to be looked upon with love and care despite all the negative experiences I had and understand my situation.
